9 Ways to Shape the Path for Readers

When it comes to independent reading for pleasure, trends do not currently reside in our favor.  Nowadays, students often find themselves unwittingly or sometimes purposefully falling victim to such narratives as, “I don’t have time to read,” or “I’m just too busy,” or even the dreaded, “Reading is boring.”  And with the universe of digital distraction now firmly rooted in adolescent culture, the idea of reading books for pleasure has become an almost foreign notion to many kids.  According to the 2010  position statement published by the American Association of School Librarians, “Unfortunately, independent reading is often a casualty in our fast paced, media-oriented society.”

And yet, literacy organizations and researchers continue to tout the value of independent reading.  Relatedly, strong reading skills continue to be identified as key to academic success.  But remember: skills begin and are strengthened by habits. According to the International Literacy Association (2019), “Research establishes that students with strong reading habits are more likely to reach their full literacy potential” (p. 5).

So as parents or persons of influence in the life of an adolescent, how might we approach the business of supporting strong reading habits?  Coining a term from an excellent book on change entitled,  Switch (Heath & Heath, 2010), we need to ‘shape the path.’

Ideas for Shaping the Path:

Idea One:  Create Positive Reading Memories and Moments

Humans typically base likes and dislikes on the basis of the quality of our experiences.  For example, I once had a “bad experience” with wakeboarding, which resulted in a likely permanent disliking for this type of water recreation.  And although that experience happened years ago, I still harbor the same aversion to wakeboarding to this day.  One way we as adult readers can shape a path toward lifelong pleasure reading is to create positive reading-related moments in our adolescent’s lives.  This can be accomplished through special rituals you create around reading, family read alouds, connecting through books, or other ideas listed below.  Shaping the path for a reader can sometimes mean creating positive associations with reading– any way we can!

Idea Two:  Make the library part of life

First, be sure everyone in the family has a library card.  This simple step can by an important one, as it serves as a small move toward a future of literacy.  Of course, a library card holds no power unless it gets used.  Thus, trips to the library would be the next logical step.  Some of these trips might be to find books, in which case be sure to talk with librarians about what books might be right for your adolescent. Librarians never cease to amaze me with their ability to sometimes create something out of nothing.  Ask a few questions, then watch them work their magic!  Other trips could or might be to attend special events held at the library.  Check your local library schedule to see what special events they have scheduled.

For whatever reason, getting to the library regularly is important.  Sometimes I hear, “Well, when we go to the library he (or she) checks out books but doesn’t read them.”  That is okay!  They may not read every book they check out, but the fact that you are forging a relationship with your library can make a difference!

Idea Three:  Let nothing stop you from getting books they want into their hands

I have purchased books for my own daughters that they’ve read voraciously.  And, I’ll confess here, I have also bought books they never read.  Last summer, we visited a wonderfully delightful used bookstore on the Connecticut shore and for just a few dollars, we bought dozens of books (positive reading-related memory, anyone?!).  Did the kids read them all?  No.  But this is a point I truly feel messianic about: if they want books, get them books.  Chances are they will read at least some of them.  And again, by prioritizing time, money, and effort in this way we send an implicit message that reading matters.

Idea Four:  Be a Reader Yourself

This point cannot be stressed enough.  Kids need reading mentors and models of readers in their immediate lives.  If we merely tell kids that they “need to read because it’s important,” but do not make the time to be readers ourselves, think about the message this sends.  Paraphrasing a point once made by authors Donald Graves and Katie Wood Ray, “Either we can be walking, breathing, talking examples of all we advocate for our students, or we can have them sitting around wondering why we are trying to get them into something that we are obviously not into ourselves.”  As one of my colleagues in New York City once said, “Kids follow not what you say, they follow what you do.”  We must walk the talk of readerly lives.

Idea Five:  Share and talk about books with enthusiasm and interest

Whether at the dinner table, in the car, around the house, or on vacation, initiate conversations about books.  We can do this by asking our adolescents about their reading: questions like:

  • “What can you tell me about what are you reading now?”
  • “Wow, that sounds like an interesting read.  Tell me about the main character(s)?”
  • “Are you enjoying the book?  I wonder if there’s another one in the series or like this one you could read next?”

We might also share about the books we are reading, showing how much we are empathizing with the characters, learning to see something in a new way, or loving the style of the author.

Idea Six:  Advocate for choice

Mountains of research now support the notion that kids need choice when it comes to reading material.  Hopefully, your child attends a school in which his or her voice is honored when it comes to choosing books.  But I realize some of you reading this may not be in this optimal situation, so to you I would offer a bit of advice:  Is your child being “forced” to read something he or she hates?  Since this can be a life or death dilemma in your child’s reading journey, you may wish to speak up.  Print out the recent literacy leadership brief published by the esteemed International Literacy Association entitled, “Creating passionate readers through independent reading,” and advocate for choice.  The bottom line is that this point is vital to shaping the path for a lifelong reader.

Idea Seven:  Support local bookstores

With the ease by which online stores like Amazon have created shopping, I will admit to being a customer (although infrequently).  That said, I would argue that a piece of this puzzle is to continue frequenting and patronizing local bookstores.  Make this a weekend destination, even if it means just stopping in for something you, um… were “hoping they have in stock” (even if that’s not really the case).  What could happen is that your child might just happen to spontaneously browse some beautiful new books, and…well, maybe ask you for one!  If the budget doesn’t allow, go to the library to check it out!

Idea Eight:  Be open!

Let’s face it, kids nowadays are unlikely to pick up Old Yeller or Sounder and read it.  Don’t get me wrong– I read both of those books as a kid (and loved them).  But in the last few decades, young adult (YA) fiction has exploded.  There are gorgeous graphic novels, brand new historical “Choose Your Own Adventures,” fantasy and dystopian series that unfold over thousands of pages, fractured fairy tales– the list goes on.  Using phrases like, “Well, when I was in school we had to read real books” can deliver an unintended implicit message that what your child wants to read isn’t a “real” book.  This can turn them off to reading!  Instead, be open to their choices and negotiate them with an open mind.

Idea Nine:  Dont’ force it

Hopefully you find that at least some of the previous ideas feel doable.  I would end this post by reminding all of us that we cannot force something.  As the saying goes, “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.”  When it comes to shaping the path for a reader, think of the honey as the eight tips above, and the vinegar as the phrase, “You need to read, now get going!”

Shaping the path for a reader is no easy task.  But as the saying goes, “Where attention goes, energy flows.”  Devoting some energy to creating a reader is time well-spent.  After all, their reading lives depend on it!


Lanny’s OLW for 2019

Between the growing challenges of navigating both increasingly complex digital and physical worlds, balancing work and home lives, and parenting three children, I find the sheer pace of life to be something in need of my attention. Something to address, perhaps through one little word (OWL). Here is my choice for this year…

For over ten years now, designer and blogger Ali Edwards has led an invitation to adopt just one word– one little word— as a guide for setting intentions, inviting new things, and/or creating change in one’s life for the new calendar year.  In place of “new year’s resolutions” (something many of us struggle to live up to, me included), the one little word feels like a more accessible, more manageable, more inspirational goal.  Last year, I selected GRATEFUL as my one little word, and I can honestly say this word provided solace, illumination, and sometimes much-needed grounding at some pretty key moments. I found it to be the perfect word for a less-than-perfect 2018.

In mulling over possibilities for 2019, I have found myself considering Ali Edwards’s words about setting intention, inviting the new, and creating change in my life.  These words really resonate with me as I have been contemplating my third year of unofficial participation in the one little word project.  Although intentionally creating gratitude has made a big difference for me this year (GRATEFUL), I will admit to becoming evermore present to the frenetic pace life has taken on; I’m imagining this feels true for for nearly all of us, no? Between the growing challenges of navigating both increasingly complex digital and physical worlds, balancing work and home lives, and parenting three children, I find the sheer pace of life to be something in need of my attention. Something to address, perhaps through one little word.

Therefore, I have chosen the word BREATHE as my one little word for 2019.  BREATHE, in addition to being one of our most fundamental human needs, holds many metaphorical and connotative meanings which I find both fascinating and inspiring:

  • “Breathe” as used in music— As a musician, I have learned that sometimes it is where one doesn’t play that can make all the difference.  The space between the notes helps just as much as the notes themselves to create the emotion, the feel, and the effect of a piece of music. Conversely, when one overplays, the music can lose all of those qualities.  Songs, like all of us, need to breathe.  As I choose this one little word for this year (BREATHE), I realize I need to allow space– i.e., breathing— to take its much needed place as part of the overall tapestry of the song I live.
  • “Breathe” as in something to allow wine to do— When we open a bottle of wine and pour it, we allow the wine to oxidize.  Often this process is called “allowing the wine to breathe.”  This phrase translates to a metaphorical allowance of the wine to “stretch its legs” after being cooped up in a bottle for years.  The connotation of breathing in this context, therefore, could be a positive analogy for releasing one’s feelings and interpretations of entrapment.  I will admit to experiencing such angst both in professional and personal living recently; therefore, for such inevitable situations, breathing will be invited. I will BREATHE.
  • “Breathe” as a component of mindfulness— According to the website mindful.org, mindfulness is “[the] basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we are doing, and not overly reactive or overwhelmed by what is going on around us.”  Meditation and breathing are essential pieces to activating and honing such an ability.  This year I hope to practice more elements of mindfulness, with breathing chief among them.

As I adopt this new one little word BREATHE for 2019, I, of course, tip my hat to all of those who came before me, to those who chose this word as their word (such as my former TWT colleague, Lisa Keeler who chose this word in 2017).  And this word, of course, is available to any who believe it to be right for them.  As I said to my beautiful wife the other day when she inquired about “using it too,” the word belongs to everyone and no one.

I want to wish all who are reading this post a happy and prosperous new year.  I am honored you have taken your time to read this, and hope you are able to settle on your one little word in a way that feels helpful and inspiring.  Happy New Year!

4 Tips on How Parents Can Help Their Middle School Writers

Happy New Year, everyone!  No, I know it’s not a new calendar year.  But it is a new school year, and that’s exciting!  With this exhilarating turning of the clock, however, often comes nervous anticipation and cautious optimism . . . what will THIS year be like?

For parents of middle school students, the fall can often invoke a sense of uneasiness as it relates to your role in helping your kids with academics.  Specifically in regards to writing, how much help is enough?  Too much?  And what kind of support will best serve your student’s writerly identity and skills?

Parents may wish to consider the following tips when it comes to helping kids at home with their writing:

  1.  Be a cheerleader for stamina-– Part of becoming a strong writer is developing stamina.  Just like many middle schoolers in a cross country race draw encouragement from a parent’s animated cheers from the sidelines, so too can writers be encouraged when we praise their efforts.  Like cross country and playing the piano, writing is a skill learned in use— meaning we get better at writing by doing it– a lot.  So the more parents are able to encourage and praise effort and time spent developing writing stamina, the better.  It may also help to convey to young writers the importance of strengthening their writing muscles, as I am attempting to do here.  Remember, we get better at what we do!
  2. Help them rehearse and give knowledgeable feedback— Writers often benefit from rehearsing their writing with a trusted mentor or partner.  Talking through the structure of how a piece of writing will go before putting pen to paper or fingers to keyboards can pay huge dividends.  In her article, “Parents as Writing Partners,” (Educational Leadership, 2014), Dr. Mary Ehrenworth discusses the importance of doing this, as well as providing knowledgeable feedback.  Ehrenworth notes (2014), “[Parents] can make an immense difference by being a ‘first reader’ for [their] child.” (p. 24)  She suggests employing such prompts as,
    • “How will you (story/essay/article) go?”
    • “Tell me about the parts.”
    • “Then what will come next?”
    • “How do you think you want it to end?”
    • “What will be the most important moment/part of the piece?”

In regards to feedback, it is often helpful to point out parts of a piece that work well, as well as parts the young writer may wish to revisit, either by reading it aloud, rewriting it, providing more elaboration, etc.  Incidentally, feedback has been shown to have one of the highest effect sizes in education (Hattie, 2008).

3.   Actively advocate for the time and space to write— As Ehrenworth points out in her article, when asked, students often admit to struggling to find time and space to write.  A lot of kids have jam-packed schedules, busy households, and nearly omnipresent digital distraction around them.  It is no wonder then, that sometimes they may need help managing those schedules and securing a productive space in which to do some writing (p. 24).

4.  Focus on the positive before suggesting the correction— It is important to remember that our middle school students are in a long period of approximation when it comes to artfully crafting language in writing.  This includes grammar and convention use.  So when it comes to providing some help with revising and editing, parents might remember to lead with a compliment.  What is the student doing well that you might compliment or draw positive attention to on the page?  What might you acknowledge that the student is demonstrating successful command (or near command) over at this point?  Leading with a compliment often opens ears and metaphorical doors to follow-up suggestions.  And it has the added benefit of sending a critical implicit message: “You’re doing something right, good for you!”

As those of us who enjoy some intimate connection with academia proceed with the new school year, let us remember that where attention goes, energy flows.  Have a wonderful fall, everyone!

Makeshift Memorial: A Tuesday Slice of Life

We mourned the loss of a small animal yesterday . . .


I gazed out the front window at the two girls standing forlornly in my front yard.  Their backs to me, they stood at the faded and peeling split rail fence, gazing at something in the road.  Overhead, above the leafless trees across our road, dark clouds threatened more rain.  I thought about where this moment might be heading, how I might make it softer, perhaps maybe even meaningful in some way.  Still not sure, I grabbed my coat and and put on my garden shoes.  My daughters had now traveled to the backyard, so I exited out the back door.  While outside, I learned a squirrel had been unable to escape an encounter with a speeding auto.  A search had now ensued for a suitable burial location. After a few minutes, I heard my oldest daughter suggest,  “How about here, Papa?” She pointed to a patch of moss in a neglected flower bed.  

“Sure, honey, let me grab a shovel.”

As I dug a small grave for Mr. Squirrel, my two oldest worked together to transport a medium sized granite stone from a far location in our yard, expertly lugging it about 30 yards across the rather pathetic April grass.  “Oh, a headstone,” I commented.  They both nodded.

It was then time for me to retrieve the body from the road, which I did.

After patting down dirt, deep and brown, my daughters began to adorn the site with small, decorative stones. Using acorns, they spelled a single word: “Squirrel.”  I considered the possibility of gathering us all around the site, saying a few words on the animal’s behalf.  But it never happened.

Later, inside the house, I watched the girls cut a daffodil and make a precious sign to place at the gravesite.  And I suddenly thought about other animals lost: my first pet, the first pet I knew, a poodle killed by a passing car.  I thought about other pets.  And other people.  And of course, my mom.

Life seems to have a way of creating strings of connected moments of loss, separated by time.  I felt grateful this one didn’t pull too hard on our hearts.



Life Paths: A Tuesday Slice of Life

I received an unexpected text yesterday . . .

There were three of them.  Sitting in my office, I looked to my left where my phone sat on a charger.  Lighting up the screen, a text alert had just arrived.  I leaned over and peered through my new spectacles, feeling a sudden and pleasant sense of surprise overtake me as I read the name; wow, the text came from one of my very best high school friends, Matt.  And, I could tell, photos accompanied the message.  Feeling intrigued, I took a brief moment from reading email and slid the message right to unlock my phone.  And there they were, three of them; the message read:

“Grandson and I in San Diego!”

Above the words, three photographs of Matt and a small baby boy, only a few months old, adorned the small iPhone screen.  I felt a smile creep across my face.  “My gosh,” I thought, “he really is a grandpa. Amazing.” 

My mind suddenly jumped decades back in time, and I found myself in Matt’s backyard in Portland, a place we often spent weekend nights in sleeping bags when we were thirteen.  We constantly talked of the future in those days: Who would we marry?  Where would we live?  Would I become a music star someday?  We dreamed together, and, as young boys, we wondered…where would life take us?

Turns out, life took us to different colleges, different countries at times, and down very different paths.  My oldest daughter will be nine in a few weeks, while Matt’s oldest just had her first baby in her mid-twenties.

But gazing at the pictures, at Matt’s face, he somehow seemed the same to me– still the boy I looked up to as a kid and whose friendship I still cherish to this day.